• Carlos Jepsen posted an update 1 week, 2 days ago

    We need to be talking about this stuff — even if the idea of having kids seems far, far away. By age 30, we’re down to between 39,000 and 52,000 (13% of the eggs we had at puberty). By age 40, we’re down to between 9,000 and 12,000 (3% of the eggs we had at puberty) — and not all of those eggs are viable. At the age of 15, a woman has a 40% to 50% chance of conceiving per cycle, but after age 35, she has a 15% to 20% chance. At 45? She has a 3% to 5% chance.”2. THINK ABOUT YOUR GOALS.“We need to be asking ourselves, ‘Do you want to be a mother? Do you want to have a career? What does an ideal balance look like for you, and what steps do you need to take to achieve it?’ I think it’s very important for the discourse around these issues to be normalized so that people have more open conversations. Because often, the conversations feel too confrontational. Like with mothers and teachers telling young women, ‘It’s time for you to have a child; don’t delay,’ — it feels too imposing.It’s really the AMH levels and FSH levels that you want to test — AMH being the anti-müllerian how to get pregnant hormone and FSH being the follicle stimulating hormone — both of which are indicators of your ovarian reserve (basically your egg reserve and egg quality). They’re kind of winging it, saying it’ll either work out or it won’t.But, it takes a big psychological toll when it doesn’t work out. So, I’ve seen so many relationships, including mine, that fell apart during that pursuit of parenthood, and I often wonder, “Are there ways we could have prevented those minefields by talking in advance about what we really wanted and what we were willing to go through, instead of dealing with it in the moment?” There are some times when it’s very good to wing it and be in the moment, but then there are other times — when the psychological toll is great — that it’s better to be prepared in advance.”5. CHECK YOUR INSURANCE.“Make sure you have good health insurance, and be aware of the policies surrounding fertility and reproduction where you live and work. Insurance is such a quagmire, and it really varies state-to-state and policy-to-policy. But typically, unless you’ve been diagnosed with infertility (which was the case in my situation), [fertility] tests are often considered elective.IVF costs $10,000 to $20,000 per cycle, and when you consider that it takes multiple cycles, [it can be several times that amount]. If you live in one of the 15 states that mandates infertility coverage, it’s likely that your IVF treatments will be covered. But, there are limitations on the amount of IVF cycles you can do and the amount of time in which you can do them. Like, you can only do a certain amount of cycles within a certain time period.